Look at things differently
I saw that! Don’t you roll your eyes at me. Yes, I realize it is extremely vague. I mean “Look at things differently” what does that even mean? And what if I like the way that I look at things. But come on, everyone has a time when something really gets your goat and your blood pressure starts to rise. It could be a co-worker that won’t leave you alone when you have so much to do or some traffic that made you late. It could be a gargantuan dragonfly that landed on your leg that you thought for sure was going to bite you or the stairs that you tripped on while going up them. We all have those moments when something just really peeves you. My challenge to you this weekend is to try to look at all of these things differently. Still unsure what that means fully? Well let’s dive on in.
Let’s start with literally. When that dragonfly lands on your pant leg, before screaming and
flicking it off, take a deep breath and do something really daring. Get closer. Bugs are sometimes the most interesting things to look at close up. Their bodies are so rigid and detailed but you really have to get close to see those details. Plus, its said that if a dragonfly lands on you, its good luck. And I promise dragonflies don't bite…I think.
Another literal way to look at things differently, is to take some pictures. Spending a day thinking like a photographer can really help you notice the small glorious details that are easily missed in life. The sun illuminating some fall leaves, the way a road winds and twists through the hills, or even the steam rising from a cup of warm coffee. All little details so many people miss.
The last literal way I am going to talk about might be my favorite. Literally, change view points. This one might only be for the brave out there, but do something screwy. Hang upside from some monkey bars like you did when you were a kid. Lay down on the ground to get a better view of something tall. Stand upside down just for giggles!
You might notice something you never even thought to look at. And someone new might notice you! And then you and this new person will start talking, and then you’ll go out for coffee, then ten years later you will be happily married picking out house furniture together, all because of that one time you decided to look at things differently… Wait, what?
Then there is the less literal approach to this. One of my favorite quotes, is “Everyone is fighting a battle you know nothing about.” The next time someone really peeves you, take a step back and jump into their shoes. How would you react if you were in the same situation? Sometimes in the repetitiveness of day to day life, we forget that not everyone deals with the same things, in the same way that we do. So something that might not have been a big deal to you, could have made all the difference to someone else.
Recently I have gotten really into a personality test called the Myers Briggs Type Indicator. I find it to be such a fascinating tool to use. It can really show you how differently people think and handle different situations, which in turn can show you not everyone thinks the same way as you. You can take the test here. And then read about other personality types here. Have everyone you know take it and then once you know their personality type you will know exactly what they are thinking. Well not really, but it will give you a better understanding of how their brain ticks, making it easier to step into their shoes.
Now there is even another way to look at things differently. Say its not someone, but something that is really bothering you. A situation or a decision that didn’t go in your favor. In these times, it can be really hard to look at the bright side, but I challenge you to step back and look at it from a different lens. Is there a reason that you can see why this ended up the way that it did? Is there a way that you can learn from it? And if the answer is no, sometimes you just have to remember that everything happens for a reason and when one door closes, another one opens.
So that is my weekend challenge for you. Take something in your life and really look at it differently. It might make life seem a little less stressful. How are ways you try to look at things differently? Whether it be through creative expression like fashion, or the unique type of coffee you get from the farmers market, let us know in the comments below. Or shoot me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org. I would really love to hear and who knows maybe I will feature your story. Have fun!